reX.'s poll:
toDay's poll is asked by cHippy.. "cHippy asks" ..
if there could only be one webcam in the world... wHo's webcaM.
would it be?
go vote! .. and write in your own answer
also am looking for questions that you might haVe! if you want to
ask a question for the poll just email me! .. rex@rexsworld.com
toDay's fortune cooKie:
A positive attitude can overcome most daily troubles.
So wake up and set your mind to it, first thing every day.
(and as my moRning philosophy goes.. fiRst a cup of joE. tHen a positive attitude.. heh!)
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HI tHere...
Dear Michael
I'm using your first name to differentiate between the "real you" and the
"screen you." I'm not sure there's a difference, but if there is, it's the
real you I'd like to write to right now.
For the last couple of days, you've been talking about the cold lonliness
you have been feeling because you are without a relationship. I can most
definately relate. I am a few months short of 50 years old, and have yet to
have a relationship that lasts for more than a few weeks. This used to
bother me a lot until, most unlike yourself, I discovered I LIKED being by
myself and quit searching for what I was not looking for. This is not an
easy row to hoe and I don't recommend you make the same decision for
yourself. But I have a few thoughts that you might be able to use to tide
you over until someone comes along.
First of all, hold all your friends very close. In little individual
pieces, they can fill in a lot of the void. What I find is the most
valuable quality in friends is companionship. Avail yourself of that
companionship all you can. You will love and be loved for the experience.
And every chance you get, thank your lucky stars that they are there and
consider how grateful you are that they are there. It doesn't hurt to tell
them that occasionally as well.
Next, do more living and less thinking about living. If you are alone and
thinking about being alone, you will become more lonely. Alone is a
strictly physical thing, but lonely becomes emotional. If you are alone,
you can still do things to reach out to others. The computer is pretty good
at it as well as the telephone. Every one that you know was at one time a
stranger and they have become friends. So make them closer friends as well
as meeting new people that could become near and dear as well.
Third, don't go looking - go showing. When you meet someone new, make it a
point to show him what you have to offer, not just see what he has to offer.
There is a saying in most religions and philosophies that goes something
like "You have to give in order to receive." So you give until it hurts,
and then give just a little more, and suddenly you will realize how much you
are getting back. And, of course, be aware of what you are doing. If you
aren't getting back what you are giving, then that could be the wrong
person. Don't watch with your eyes and listen with your ears........look
and listen with your soul, and listen to what your soul says. Souls are
pretty good at knowing what is good for us and what isn't. All we have to
do is listen to them.
And the last item on my ramble is the old saying (cliche?) "To thine own
self be true." This is a biggie. You have no one to answer to but
yourself. That is the only person you see in the mirror in the morning when
you shave, and that dude will be there looking back at you for the duration.
Be good to him and he'll be good to you. Listen to what he says, treat him
as a friend, and love him like you want someone to love you. Maybe this
should have been the first item on the list.
Well there is a smattering of my thoughts that I hope you can use. I don't
mean to sound like I'm telling you how to run your life, just sharing things
I've discovered in mine. As I have said before, I consider myself to be
your friend. I say that backwards from the way most people do. I figure
that being a friend entails some commitment and by saying that I'm your
friend rather than the other way around expresses that commitment that I'm
willing to make for you. If you are feeling down and lonely, give me a
call.....I'll talk until the wires melt. Whatever I can do to make you feel
better is what I'm willing to do for you.
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wiNNing the waR or fRozen on my gRandparets fRont poarch...
goD. mann! .. tHank you for your words.. im like looking at tHem over and over.. they incorporate into my thoughts and feelings .. very deeP and reminding of wHat (our) soul tells us about feeling aLone..
youR
words of tHis situation trigger a response in me that makes me tHInk
.. tHat i have done ALOT of tHInking about this.. all my liFe in
faCt.. and i believe tHat sometimes we get into a situation that
we fall into a deeP "tHink" tRance.. and sometimes for me i fReeze..
like tHOse nightmares i had as a kid.. where the monster wHas coming
at me on my gRandparents fRont poarch.. and i couldnt moVe my body
to run.. tHat state of fear.. where you feel helpless is worSe tHan
any "bLair witch" or hoRRor moVie you might see..
i tHink i have been in sort of a fRozen sTate fearful to moVe and my bRain-barf raMbles are a wHay of me venting them out in a wHay where if i admit tHis .. i somehow become eVen more responsible for tHem .. and hopefully that brings me to try and moVe.. meaning that i can brake that fRozen state.. and sTop the "tHink fReeze" and sTart to take aCtion .. maybe eVen reaSon with that monster tHat apRoaches me on my gRandparents fRont poarch.. cause i tHink he aint eVer really is gonna leave me aLone..
tHere.. i feel as a sTudent of my own mind and eX.periences of others.. tHat i have learned something.. and tHat knowlege gives me sTrength to moVe and not only moVe but perhaps moVe with a wiser perspective and for my eVolving souL thats headlines news : " we won the waR!!!"
heh! ..
(tHIs time)
reX.'s
raMbles!
