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moN. juNe 11th 2001

 

 
G R E E T I N G S Sagittarius

There's nothing wrong with having a multidimensional personality, Sagittarius -- in fact, its favored! You're complex but not necessarily hiding anything. You have a strong faith in the outcome of distant events even if they don't have anything to do with what you're working on at the moment. The Libra Moon is eager to see justice done, and you may be the one best equipped to do it. Start looking ahead right now so that you can be prepared when the time comes.

(diG tHat.. tuNe into me! LOL! ...)

reX.'s poll

hoW do you heaL? hoW do you help yourself and/or others?

i help myself by helping others?

i dont heaL! i pick at the sCabs..?

by doing a "liFe inventory" reminding me of the good tHIngs i have and the tHIngs i need to be cautious of?

go vote! .. and write in your own answer

am looking for poLL questions that you might haVe! if you want to ask a question for the poll just email me! ..

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  tHe sTrange feelings of an almost homeless man...

 

wHas sCared sHitless but had the energy of a bull today as i walked the backstreets of the mission to get to the Eviction deFense collaborative.

the information i had reCieved in the mail looked sTrange to me and suspisious.. i had not heard a word about the case or an ammended complaint to my eviction summons. and now after going over and understanding tHat intimidating document ..here wHas another!.. my mind has been dRenched with legal information.. im learning to be a laWyer tHat i never wanted to be.. but tHen.. liFe is eX.citing tHat wHay.. i always make jokes comparing me to alley mCbeal.

my sTomach had been upset for about 24 hours sTriaght..and flickering headaches ever since i talked and showed wHItefeather the information i recieved.. sHe said i had a gaudian angel to get eX.tra information about the case and to have eX.tra evidence of an unlaWful eViction.. sHe has given me sTrength to face this unjustice and get my activist / fight for your rights side back to it's assertive nature..

but still.. eVen though im doing eVerything i think i can.. i still feel "thier" presence.. the people pushing me out and wish this uncomfortable feeling of not being "secure" or "safe" .. "wanted" in my own home would sTop.. i cant fully relaX and am very tense..

tomma i open a seperate account for my rent monies.. i have nowhere to send it now and feel horrible.... sad... why did it need to be like this.. ?

i kNow that i have a gReat deal on this apartment for what i pay.. but have dealt with crummy maintence and have been here for around 5 years or more.. i dont want to upset my liFe or the kiTTies if they want to get me out.. raise tHe rent and make more money.

helps me understand wHat moNey can do to people or make you do to other people.. and i am resigned to this moment to make sure anybody tHat has to go through this and i hear about it ..will get any information about this that i have available including my eX.periences.. to help... and support.. . cause it's kinda like being in the closet.. you feel alone ..kinda scared .. with important stuff to deal with.. and wHen you feel alone .. you sometimes feel weak or dont have the courage to face things alone..

i have been blessed with some pretty amazing gaurdian angels lately.. that sHare thier eX.periences with me .. help me.. i only hope to get to that point wHere this is all eX.perience points in my favor and am better from all this..

but damn .. ! i burn alot of saGe around the caSa lately.

 

and tHen a cHance to be a heaLer...

Hey Rex,

hope things are working out for you. Quick Question how does someone get over the hurt when your partner decides that they dont want to be with you after two years, I know this isnt a long time together but in these times its a long time.

He says its not me its him, he just dosnt have the time for a one on one relationship. You would think at 38 some of these men would like to have a man that is very much into a monogamous relationship. Someone that just wants to spend a little quality time together.

from a web fan

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oH mann.. wHere do i begin with this.. ? .. and wHat a situation you are in.. i totally feel for you .. have invested time in relationships tHat have disolved ..either from me or hiM. recently i have sTayed single cause i found that i needed to work on myself.. and it's such a "30's" thing to do.. :)

i have alot to say about this.. but the quick thing is to take inventory .. right aWay of your life.. durring this change.. you are gonna feel hurt and it's good to try and make a list of wHat is good in your life.. to give you sTrength and support to get you out of that "hole of hurt" and tHen also to list the sucky things.. not to deal with them.. or maybe you do.. but at least remind yourself of the things that could get outta perportion and end you up in this situation where you are hurt..

with that inventory your focus should be on healing.. and your fRiends should be on that list.. i call them my tRibe.. people that influence me.. give me support..and help me heal..

it taKes time to heal from this sort of tHing i found.. and tHat's gonna help the most.. over time you get a different perspective.. but keep looking at your life inventory .. do checkups all the time.. and never be afRaid of "re-definition" at anytime.. tHats why a 38 year old can "change his mind" .. or not want to eX.perience tHings eVen at that time.. at any age there is soMething being learned i bet.. and people go through thier lessons at different times.. there is a norm .. yah.. but tHere's people outside tHe norm.. and sometimes for me tHat "eX.tra baggage" is the tHing that attracts me to them.. but im honest about that "baggage" tHing and realize EVERYONE is dealing with something at all tiMes.. either heavy or not.. liFe feeds us messages and tests all the time.. and there will always be some kind of "baggage" tHat a person will have.. and sometimes i will help them along with it.. or sometimes i will say "nope.. carry your own" .. :)

tHis is a great topic for a sHow .. and with my perspective now after not being in a serious relationship for such a long time.. not since fRanke.. and that wHas about a two year thing.. that just blew up in my faCe .. oh mann. i tHought i wHas gonna die. noW i miss hiM. in a different wHay..

aGain .. take inventory ..and count up your fRiends and hold them tite.. be honest and realize wHen you need to let go and wHen to feel the hurt.. i found that i will totally bury myself sometimes with misery.. (i am a dramatic sensitive saggie after all..:)

huGs mann.. i wish i could do more for you.. but hope you find strength or wHat you need somewhere in my words.. and will get into this more on my talk sHow..

xx

reX.

 

wHen a gay man waNts a woman...

gayneedsgal: hey rex u there?
gayneedsgal: if u r i need some advice

rexsreality: hey bRo.. wHaz just answering someones email .. giving them some advice.. reX.'s healing services now open with warM arms..

gayneedsgal: lol and iwas just about to send u an email! cool
gayneedsgal: ok this is whats up-

rexsreality: ok.

gayneedsgal: how does a gay man pick up a girl? i want to know what its liek to have sex with one
gayneedsgal: when it comes to me and girls we end up becoming best freinds before anything else. im not really attracted to them

rexsreality: it's a very kinky eX.perience.. which makes it "taboo" in the gay community.. think of it as a "n0-no" .. and that will add eX.citement for you and the gal.

gayneedsgal: my middle name is taboo lol so how do u pick then up without the gay thing getting in the way first?
gayneedsgal: i mean i can seduce a guy in an instant but in totally clueless when it comes to a girl

rexsreality: just notice that gurls flirt right away with gay guys...
rexsreality: and gay guys usually flirt back .. but there is a unspoken safety of it wont go there..


gayneedsgal: not with me. its like they know right from the start im gay and out of their league
gayneedsgal: yeah i flirt a lot lol


rexsreality: wHen you do go there.. it can be easy with a gurl when your gay.. cause it's more "lesbian" eX.perience.. if you get my dRift..someone that at least understands them ..us being gay.. and women tend to have less problems with lesbian eX.periences or at least being open with them.


gayneedsgal: true
gayneedsgal: but its not the sex part that i dont know, that i knew well, its the part of me getting them to do it lol i cant seem to get a girl, dont know how to not end up being there best friend lol


rexsreality: well.. then if you ar out of thier leauge .. they must be dRooling for you .. so the flirting and "goin all the wHay" there .. will be easier.. cause sHe will be more receptive to tHe "unique" eX.perience.. dont forget.. gurls have naughty minds.. they are more visceral.. and get totally worked up in thier brains where guys get worked up with thier dicks..


gayneedsgal: lol ok
gayneedsgal: now all i have to do is get oput there and look for them lol thats the other problem
gayneedsgal: i have no idea how to go to a place like a mall and just pick up a girl. i cant do it with guys either.


rexsreality: you need to change your patterns.. or "come on" to one of your gurl "friends" and have her give you a lesson on kissing.. start there.. and i bet her puSSy gets wet.. and your dick mite sTart dRipin'..LOL! .


gayneedsgal: mm cool ok
gayneedsgal: now for another problem


rexsreality: guRls want fRiends.. thats the approach.. they sense or you tell em' your gay.. they tend to open up more.. and some of them are really turned on by the idea of doin it with a "gay" guy.. makes them "special" and gives them a gay fRiend to talk about it afterwards..heh!


gayneedsgal: that i leanred already


rexsreality: then use that as your power..


gayneedsgal: cool, and all this time i though thats what was the problem! lol
gayneedsgal: now for the other problem


rexsreality: yah.


gayneedsgal: where do i find me a hott guy?? lol seriously, i dont like the club scene since i cant dance and shit and frankly i dont get out much, excoet to places like the mall and the movies and stuff. m,y 'gaydar' isnt very reliable either


rexsreality: hot guys are eVerywhere! open your eyes!


gayneedsgal: i see a guy, but i dont know how to proceed and trying to pick him up, same with girls


rexsreality: LOL!


gayneedsgal: i know that! lol


rexsreality: what do you do instead of pick up .. become his bud?


gayneedsgal: no niether lol
gayneedsgal: just look at him
gayneedsgal: and kick myself for being so inexperienced
gayneedsgal: excpet sexually lol


rexsreality: nah! dont kick yourself .. you lose power that wHay.. everyone is ineX.perienced in something or another.. and bet you have more eX.perience than you are giving yourself cRedit for.
gayneedsgal: well when it comes to sex im good. i dont know how to pick up a complete stranger, but thanx to a lot of people my family knows i have gotten a lot of one nighters in the past few years


gayneedsgal: i lost count at 13, so go from there lol
rexsreality: sounds like we need to do a show about pickin' up dudes!
gayneedsgal: and to top it off the guys im attracted to are usually str8. and example of this is joey fatone from nsync whom i met and was dumb enough to tell him how i felt uhh
gayneedsgal: that would be nice, if i can get to listen lol


rexsreality: that falling for a sTriaght mann.. is just like wHen women fall for gay men.. it's unaVailability...and somehow going for that protects us from hurt ...cause there's no chance in us getting it..
rexsreality: tHOse attractions need to be apprciated as just fantasy material sometimes.. and tHats totally cool. when some ideas remain fantasy. yah know?


gayneedsgal: true. but man that joey is fucking hott! damn... its guys liek that that i go for. a man has to have a goatee before ill look at him! lol
gayneedsgal: i guess. maybe i just need to get out there more, if only i had vehicle! lol


rexsreality: yuM goatees! first use your mind and confidence as your vehicle.. i will help you out on a show.. and we will get advice about picking up dudes.. i have problems with it too sometimes.. you have to be assertive..


gayneedsgal: u have problems getting guys?! thats hard to believe. boy u are so hott to me! i sometimes wish i was in SF jsut to hang out with people like me! lol
gayneedsgal: well at least i dont have any more online crushes lol have u ever had those rex?


rexsreality: EVERYONE has problems with relationships in some degree or another.. doesnt matter what they look like.


gayneedsgal: true


rexsreality: im gonna add this dicussion to my rambles if you dont mind..
rexsreality: and i made a note in my topics brainstorm list (Note: make note)


gayneedsgal: sure thing. so have u had online crushes? i had one that drove me nuts


rexsreality: oh my goD! i have online crushes all the tiMe.. how can we not? .. heh!


gayneedsgal: yeah, i get them a lot too. i got one right now! how about obsessions?
gayneedsgal: i had a big big obessesion, but im embarrassed to sya with who! lol


rexsreality: obsessions make people interesting if you give them a chance.. but there are the overly "watch-out" ones..


gayneedsgal: yeah, i think i was nuts when i as obsessed. i think to myself 'pj, how could you have gone that far? your a psycho!' lol
gayneedsgal: im not a psycho, but i felt like one which scared the shit out of me


rexsreality: our minds tell us and let us eX.perience anything.. even being psycho.. it's ok.. it just means you have ..ummm a "cReative" mind..


gayneedsgal: lol yeah my mind is very creative. i have a lot of hobbies, to many i sometimes think
gayneedsgal: on another subject- when do we get to see pablo on the cams? lol
gayneedsgal: i want see the uncutness you keep sighing about! lol


rexsreality: ahhh.. more of pablo! heh! .. he's getting a big head to go along with his big dick! ..
gayneedsgal: damn, i want to see! lol
rexsreality: heh! . maybe someday.. we will have to encourage hiM>


gayneedsgal: dude, ive been reading back issues of your rex a day, and all i know is i wish i was in SF cuz u guys have so much fun! lol
gayneedsgal: well sexy rex i gtg. thanx for the help and ill try as always to listen to the shows
gayneedsgal: night


rexsreality: nite man! .. sMooch hope my words help a bit.


gayneedsgal: ok thanx man bye

 

bRidgin' tHat aGe tHang...

talk2meplease: Hello
talk2meplease: I don't know who you are, but you're on my buddy list
talk2meplease: So I figured I would talk to you
talk2meplease: Hello?


rexsreality: hello.
rexsreality: wHo's this?


talk2meplease: Uh, my name is .......
talk2meplease: You're on my buddy list


rexsreality: hey ......... im reX.


talk2meplease: Not quite sure how you got there, but I want to know who you are
talk2meplease: Oh, cool
talk2meplease: Hi Rex
talk2meplease: or reX


rexsreality: u know me?


talk2meplease: Nope
talk2meplease: So what's your story?


rexsreality: here.. i have a website with my sTory..
rexsreality: http://www.rexsworld.com/rexcam/


talk2meplease: ok
talk2meplease: Cute
talk2meplease: kitty


rexsreality: i am testing an internet radio show with this AIM name.. i dont have you buddied.. so dont know wHy i wHas on your list.. unless someone else used it.


talk2meplease: I probably found it somewhere and put it there to look up a while ago
talk2meplease: cool, you have a cam
talk2meplease: What's your radio thing about?
talk2meplease: I remember what I have your screen name for, you do web design, right?
talk2meplease: I think I was trying to reach you for some advice for starting my own web site
talk2meplease: Do you ever show up on the cam?


rexsreality: check out the radio stuff here..
radio.gaycams.org


talk2meplease: ok


rexsreality: sorry .. given out some advice actually to a few folks.. my shows vary.. anywHere from my daily life eX.periences to seX. talk .. and now spirituality.

rexsreality: iM. sTarting my own cult..LOL! . want some kool-aide?


talk2meplease: uh
talk2meplease: you are very off the wall
talk2meplease: Which is a quality that is very good


rexsreality: off the wall is an understatement..LOL! .


talk2meplease: haha


rexsreality: moRe like "fell off the wall" ..heh!


talk2meplease: that is new and original
talk2meplease: you're not broadcasting?
rexsreality: just recorded music right now.. you can look at the schedule or progarm info at that website i gave yah to see wHen im on.


talk2meplease: ah
talk2meplease: ha, major blonde moment here...
talk2meplease: I just realized that you're gay
talk2meplease: lol


rexsreality: wHat gave it aWay?


talk2meplease: that web site
talk2meplease: I didn't look at the address
talk2meplease: lol
talk2meplease: I just sorta copied it and went there


rexsreality: ah yah. im so casual with it.. i forget that it's meaning has different intereptations.


talk2meplease: what do you mean exactly


rexsreality: i live in sf .. so gay is used so frequently and part of the everyday.. where it's not like that in other areas.. i forget .. and refer to gay things without realizing that it outs me.. but i already figured im outted when im speaking..


talk2meplease: What do you mean about the speaking?
talk2meplease: You remind me of the dude from Sugar RAy


rexsreality: well.. like when people ask me what i do.. there is usually "gay" in the title.. and i say it casually as if there is no issue ..when sometimes people are uncomfortable with it..


talk2meplease: So what do you do?
talk2meplease: Just the web cam?


rexsreality: right now im working on getting Radio gaycams' programing operations.. operating.. getting new hosts.. doin webdesign on the side to support my habbit and passions.. what do you do? ..where are you?


talk2meplease: I am in .....
talk2meplease: I am in school


rexsreality: cool. know folks out there. never been.


talk2meplease: You should come down here
talk2meplease: It's hot and humid
talk2meplease: and beautiful beaches


rexsreality: i will someday.
rexsreality: what are you studyin'?


talk2meplease: I am in High School


rexsreality: what gRade?


talk2meplease: Looking for a mentor, sorta
talk2meplease: entering high school

talk2meplease: This is when people stop chatting with me


rexsreality: tHats good! we all need a mentor.. someone to learn from .. at any age..


talk2meplease: :-D


rexsreality: well.. with this name .. i like to talk to anybody.. the world! .. other online names and accounts.. well.. the more "adult" ones.. i probably would have stopped talking with you..


talk2meplease: You're at least honest
talk2meplease: adult, lol
talk2meplease: I have had too many of those conversations

rexsreality: i bet.. especially if your honest too.


talk2meplease: I actually feel like a whore

talk2meplease: yeah


rexsreality: yeeeks! .. thats pretty !
rexsreality: is it from trying to find someone to talk to?


talk2meplease: Yes
talk2meplease: It is hard to find someone that you can be open and honest with
talk2meplease: But I am too open and honest
talk2meplease: And the other person takes my pic, jacks off, then leaves me with nothing


rexsreality: i hear yah. and you have to realize by being so you open yourself up to getting hurt.. and might want to close down.. but never do it.. get strong.. and realize that being honest will deliver you so much more..


talk2meplease: thanks


rexsreality: ahhh.. thats tough.. but it's the reality with age difference and seX.


talk2meplease: I find guys that are my age
talk2meplease: around 14 to 16
talk2meplease: But they just want to jack off


rexsreality: im glad you said that.. i wHas tryin to figure a wHay to ask..about if you date guys your age.. and hate feeling uncomfortable about givin' advise when people are so quick to yell "child molestor" .. it's cReepy.


talk2meplease: I don't do that really


rexsreality: being like that with guys your age is gReat! and i have learned by wanting more.. and waiting .. sometimes it's better..


talk2meplease: If you want a nude pic of me I will yell
talk2meplease: yeah


rexsreality: no! no! no! .. i dont want a nude pix !
rexsreality: LOL!


talk2meplease: lol, you don't seem like the type
talk2meplease: you're too nice
talk2meplease: and cute
talk2meplease: But I am having problems with accepting myself
talk2meplease: I love both sexs, but I want to like girls, not guys


rexsreality: hey! i like looking at nude guys.. but that would make me uncomfortable.. i really believe that there is a difference with guys at different ages.. when i comes to sex.. there are many differences in the levels of perception.. and what seX. is.. i know that people lead each other on.. just to have seX. but that is unfair sometimes with age.


rexsreality: when i wHas coming out .. i dated gurls and boyes and didnt want to label myself.. i didnt want to be boxed in.. i didnt have enuff eX.periences i knew i hadnt gone the "distance" .. and didnt want to be defined yet.


rexsreality: now i look at myself and others as pansexual.. basically people will get off on wHat feels good.. whatever society tells us doesnt matter.. people will still do anything and hide anything and still have thier passions.. wither they realize them or not.


talk2meplease: I seem to lust for men, but I love women
talk2meplease: which is a major conflict


rexsreality: good for you! . why a conflict? it's pretty unique.. be proud of tHat.


talk2meplease: What's to be proud of though?


rexsreality: that you are different. that you have feelings for both sexes which you can honestly define from where you are at right now.. so many people struggle with even acepting that they have different thoughts from the world cause we are conditioned sometimes that wHay.

rexsreality: it's like if your different ..you have to hide it sometimes.. or over compinsate for it.. but those differences give us power and a chance at inner self development by looking deeper at who we are..


talk2meplease: What were you like at 15
talk2meplease: But I really don't want to be different sexually


rexsreality: honestly? .. at 15.. i wHas horny.. makin' it with gurls and starting to lust over my guy fRiends..


talk2meplease: Not in today's society
talk2meplease: When did you first have sex?


rexsreality: seX. is so diverse man. or sexuality is .. it's personal .. everyone is different if you start analyzing that persons details.


talk2meplease: oh


rexsreality: i lost my virginity at 13 with a gal i knew for a long time..


talk2meplease: you had intercourse at 13?
talk2meplease: do you regret it?


rexsreality: but i advocate personal definitons for alot of things that society defines for us.. such as sexuality.. people are what they are.. my moM. says eVeyone is biseXual eX.cept her! heh!


rexsreality: first time wHas sCary . dont regret anything.
rexsreality: take the eX.periences and learn from them to hopefully influence your future ones..


talk2meplease: Do you still like women?


rexsreality: i jump the fence every once in awhile.. LOL!


talk2meplease: lol
talk2meplease: So you're bi?


rexsreality: but honestly i look to have relationships with men.. when i wHas alot younger it was differnt .. sex with men and relationships with gurls.


talk2meplease: oh
talk2meplease: How old are you?


rexsreality: i dont really promote myself as bi.. im more relating to gay.. but again i do bring up pansexuality which covers all labels and allows us to develop and grow ..


rexsreality: im 33 ..how about you?


talk2meplease: 15


talk2meplease: You look like you're in your 20s
talk2meplease: damn


rexsreality: heh! tHanks! .. you wRite like your in your 30's..heh! . LOL!


talk2meplease: I get that a lot too


rexsreality: made me feel better tonite..


talk2meplease: :-p
talk2meplease: I do that
talk2meplease: I hate that too
talk2meplease: People think I am sexy, funny, and I make them feel better, and I dislike it


talk2meplease: My modesty is very appearent here
talk2meplease: lol


rexsreality: yah. sometimes i trip out on the gaps of communication with younger queers.. if i can use that term.. meaning. your different.


rexsreality: why dislike that wonderful gift? .. making people happy.. i have learned that it just inspires the "healer" in me.


talk2meplease: :-[thanks
talk2meplease: healer?


rexsreality: to me .. different means that someone has real insite with who they are.. and should be very proud of that.


rexsreality: healer = helping others
rexsreality: now it does sound like im starting a cult..LOL!


talk2meplease: lol
talk2meplease: Yes, and we should clone millions of you to populate the world


rexsreality: i have to head outta here.. i have enjoyed our chat bRo.


talk2meplease: thanks
talk2meplease: I feel a bit better


rexsreality: dont clone me! .. we have curcuit queens for that. he!


talk2meplease: Please don't talk about me with anyone
talk2meplease: lol
talk2meplease: lol


talk2meplease: You're cute and funny


rexsreality: i will refer to you..use our conversation.. but will not say anything about who you are or where you are to anyone.. plus i really dont know. now do i?


rexsreality: you could be madonna.


talk2meplease: lol


rexsreality: r u madonna? .. if you are.. leave me alone.


talk2meplease: That would be interesting, wouldn't it
talk2meplease: She and Gwen Stefani, damn, what a show
talk2meplease: She's odd, but she puts on a show


rexsreality: i have a fantasy that madonna is my stalker.


talk2meplease: (Madonna)
talk2meplease: Ah
talk2meplease: Well, nope, not Madonna
talk2meplease: She would be more confident


rexsreality: LOL! take care buddy be sTrong.. and absorb your life


talk2meplease: thanks
talk2meplease: When is your next radio thing?


rexsreality: madonna's sneaky! i know her tRick! s! heh!
rexsreality: check out the schedule at that site.. check out my schedule there.. and make sure to check out Xan's show.. the lesi-cafe.. she was out in high-school.. and she kicks ass!


talk2meplease: ok
talk2meplease: Night


rexsreality: be well bud! peaCe


talk2meplease: Night
talk2meplease: night

 


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