tHurs.day- maR.ch 31st, 2005 - sLam.book dotdotdot famous <...> Member # 1955 posted March 25, 2005 09:52 PM ---------------------------------------------------------- What is a friend. How do you define it? Someone I thought was a friend just told me that it was "someone you hang out with". Thats it. Amazing. Anyway after my brain started slowily functioning again I thought its a good question to ask people. ----------------------------------------------- reX Deus ex Machina Member # 77 tHere are definatly different levels of friendship.. and the relationship you have with them.. the expectations you have of them .. and the unexpected eX.periences we have with them.. i have found that certain friends.. or people i call "tribe" .. have gone through different levels at different times.. depending on the eX.periences we are having.. i know the last few years i have pulled away from certain friends and have grown closer to others.. i eX.perienced a total purge.. and now discovering a new relationship with who my tribe is.. and the roles we play.. roles are a big part i think.. the roles we set ourselves to be.. and the roles we define for our friends.. i have become frustrated before by staying in the same role.. or not being able to maintain my role.. the same vis-versa.. when a friend evolves to something else that we would have for them.. but friends do evolve.. and so do our relationships.. i have found that even though i may not have some of my tribe "with" me.. that my relationship continues.. in my mind.. it's how i feel about the relationship and what role i place them in.. some relationships i have had .. and have impacted me.. are people i have not even met.. now there that shows me.. that it's the mind.. not the matter sometimes.. that defines my friends.. and tribe.. paB.lo.. where are you? ... a good fRiend for me is someone that is unconditional.. someone that i will love and befriend wiether i really like what is going on or not.. a good friend challenges me.. calls me on my shit.. makes me angry.. helps me look at things in a different wHay.. they will agree with me when they know it's right.. they will argue when they think im not.. they will check on me when i disapear.. they will love me as they hate me.. they will share the same pain and joy that i feel.. and bring me love and support when im in a deep dark hole.. we will laugh until we pee our pants.. and eX.plore scary places.. a friend is uneX.pected.. and rides in like the lone ranger.. when you most need them... and will leave you tied to the tracks to be run over by a train... if they think you will escape.. a friend is needed by all.. for there is a place deep down in our spirits that need to connect to a tribe that defines our spirituality.. a confirmation that we exsist.. that we are worthy.. and that we are loved...

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